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            <title>Liar!</title>
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            <pubDate>Tue, 20 May 2008 13:39:28 -0400</pubDate>         
            
            <description>    &lt;p&gt;I&amp;#39;d just like to say that Andrew Maloney of Cybercoders is a liar.&amp;#160; He advertises jobs that aren&amp;#39;t in the cities he says they are.&amp;#160; In the ad he says&amp;#160;the job is&amp;#160;in a much more desirable city, when in fact it is in a shitty city about 60 miles away.&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;#160;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;People like Andrew are the reason why people have a bad impression of recruiters.&amp;#160; He is the reason many decent recruiters can&amp;#39;t get the best candidates, because those people don&amp;#39;t trust recruiters.&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;&amp;#160;&lt;/p&gt;
&lt;p&gt;I just wanted to get that off my chest.&amp;#160; Now that it is out there in teh internetz I feel better.&lt;/p&gt;    &lt;p style=&quot;clear:both;&quot;&gt; 
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            <title>Bad News, Good News</title>
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            <pubDate>Sat, 19 Apr 2008 08:55:45 -0400</pubDate>         
            
            <description>    &lt;p&gt;So this past Monday I got the official, &amp;quot;Thanks, but no thanks&amp;quot; email.&amp;#160; I was bummed, but not surprised.&amp;#160; I figured those personality tests were going to be my downfall.&amp;#160; My personality is somewhat different at work than it is outside of work - while I prefer to be a face in the crowd outside of work, in the office I don&amp;#39;t mind at all speaking in front of groups or making calls to strangers to ask them for something - so when I take those tests and it asks me what I&amp;#39;d do in a party situation and then in a conference situation, they aren&amp;#39;t going to jibe.&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Then this week we had 2 open houses at the office to get more candidates in - personally, I felt it was a clusterfuck and no one is looking at what is going to happen AFTER the open houses because now we have to get most of those people to come back in a second time, which, good luck.&amp;#160; Of course, if this isn&amp;#39;t a big success, my customer will blame me, just like they blamed me when we went to a job fair and we got a load of pre-applications filled out, and when I tried to call people to come into the office to fill out a full application over half of the phone numbers given to me were either disconnected or the person who answered didn&amp;#39;t speak English, and then when I finally got people to make appointments to come in, only 2 managed to make it in, and then only 1 came to the facility tour and was hired.&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Yesterday I was part of a conference call with my manager, regional manager, and people in corporate.&amp;#160; Starting Monday, we have to completely change the way we do business with our customer - it is basically like starting a whole new job, just with the same old employees.&amp;#160; It made me upset because I felt like I was the only one who was looking weeks and months out and could see that things weren&amp;#39;t going to work, and I was bitter that a customer could come in and change the work procedures that our company has in place for every office around the country.&amp;#160; So as I&amp;#39;m fighting back tears of frustration my regional manager finished up the meeting but asked me and my manager to stay on the line.&amp;#160; At this point I thought I was going to be told how my customer hates me and what I needed to do to get back into their good graces.&amp;#160; I really did.&amp;#160; My stomach started turning and I felt like I was going to throw up.&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Regional manager then starts off with &amp;quot;I don&amp;#39;t know what [manager] has said to you about this, and I think he knows what I&amp;#39;m about to say.&amp;quot; And my manager said, &amp;quot;There are a few things I think you may be saying right now...&amp;quot; which made me just sink into my chair, ready for the 1-2 punch to my gut.&amp;#160; Then regional manager says, &amp;quot;We think you are doing a fantastic job, and when we hired you last year we had every intention of putting you on full time, but then the economy got all messed up, which I think you know all about, and things got put on hold, but I have finally been able to get my manager to approve your hiring full time, and she is going to corporate now to get them to hire you on full time.&amp;#160; I&amp;#39;m hoping that this will get approved in the next week or two.&amp;quot; and then my manager chimed in with, &amp;quot;And until that happens, we&amp;#39;ve given you a $2 an hour raise.&amp;quot;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;!!!!!!!!!!&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Oh my god, what a wonderful way to end such a craptastic week!&amp;#160; Seriously, this had to have been one the worst weeks I&amp;#39;ve had at work, where I&amp;#39;ve actually had to take sleeping pills because my mind couldn&amp;#39;t stop racing, thinking about all the shit going on in the office.&amp;#160; Such a weight has been lifted off my shoulders!&amp;#160; I stopped off at the store on my way home and bought some sparkling wine to celebrate.&amp;#160; I left work early, like I usually do on Fridays, and was home by 4:30, when I got a call on my cell phone from my manager.&amp;#160; He wanted to start off my weekend with even better news - corporate just approved my full time hiring!&amp;#160; I should be getting all the hiring paperwork early next week!&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Everything worked out!&amp;#160; Now I feel like I can do all this stupid stuff my customer wants me to do with a better attitude, since I now know that I&amp;#39;m not just going to be dumped with no notice.&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;And tomorrow is my 12th anniversary - what a nice way to celebrate!&lt;br /&gt; &lt;/p&gt;    &lt;p style=&quot;clear:both;&quot;&gt; 
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            <title>Probably &quot;Thanks but no thanks...&quot;</title>
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            <pubDate>Sat, 12 Apr 2008 16:46:12 -0400</pubDate>         
            
            <description>    &lt;p&gt;Well, I had my phone interview this past Monday.&amp;#160; I was then asked to do some online personality evaluations, and I thought I would hear back later in the week about whether they will move on to the next step with me or not.&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I&amp;#39;m not getting my hopes up.&amp;#160; I mean, I thought the phone interview went really well, but I have no idea what the evaluations showed about me.&amp;#160; Personally, I think those personality tests don&amp;#39;t tell whether someone will do a good job or not.&amp;#160; Someone may not like being the center of attention, but it doesn&amp;#39;t mean he/she couldn&amp;#39;t be a good salesperson if she believes in what is being sold, you know what I mean?&amp;#160; So, as soon as I took the evaluations I figured I probably don&amp;#39;t have a chance because I don&amp;#39;t have that &amp;quot;make money/make sales/business business business!&amp;quot; mentality.&amp;#160; My life doesn&amp;#39;t revolve around my work.&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;So after I did the evaluations work got a little crazy, and Clint and Daisy each had to go to the vet, so I put the interview in the back of my mind.&amp;#160; It wasn&amp;#39;t until I was home last night that I realized that I never heard back from the agency this week.&amp;#160; I would at least like to know that they&amp;#39;re not interested in me - I&amp;#39;ll probably send out an email sometime on Monday just to see what is up.&lt;br /&gt; &lt;/p&gt;    &lt;p style=&quot;clear:both;&quot;&gt; 
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            <title>What To Do?</title>
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            <pubDate>Wed, 02 Apr 2008 19:41:15 -0400</pubDate>         
            
            <description>    &lt;p&gt;Okay, so I have been having these big highs and lows at work.&amp;#160; One moment things are going great, the next moment my customer is making me want to tear my hair out with outrageous demands and false accusations.&amp;#160; I&amp;#39;m doing everything everyone wants me to do, and I&amp;#39;m still getting the runaround from my corporate office about getting hired on full-time with benefits.&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Monday night I was in a bad mood about work, so I updated my resume and searched for jobs.&amp;#160; I found one job as a recruiter working from home.&amp;#160; It paid well, and, you know, I could work from home!&amp;#160; So I decided to apply and send of my resume. Since the job posting was a few weeks old I thought to myself, &amp;quot;I&amp;#39;m sure these people have gotten hundreds of resumes from people who have been in this industry much longer than I have, I doubt I&amp;#39;d even get a call.&amp;quot;&amp;#160; Well, I didn&amp;#39;t get a call, I got an email this afternoon from a woman who wanted to schedule a phone interview!&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Red flag #1 - I got the email around 1:30 this afternoon.&amp;#160; She asked me to choose 4 appointments from a list of days and times for the interview.&amp;#160; Two of the appointments I chose were for tomorrow morning.&amp;#160; I emailed her back about an hour later and gave her the times that were good for me.&amp;#160; It is now 7:30, and I still haven&amp;#39;t heard back.&amp;#160; If I have to lie to my coworkers about needing to leave the office tomorrow, I really needed to know about this soon.&amp;#160; I made a preemptive lie around 3pm and told my coworker I may need to run to the doctor&amp;#39;s in the morning, but the appointment wasn&amp;#39;t confirmed yet.&amp;#160; So I&amp;#39;ve got an out if I need it.&amp;#160; But I shouldn&amp;#39;t have to be wondering at 7:30pm if I&amp;#39;m going to have an interview at 9:30 in the morning though.&amp;#160; I&amp;#39;m finding this a little unprofessional.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;I would like to have a job that pays better and has benefits.&amp;#160; But I like the job I have now and I love my coworkers - the support system I have in them I&amp;#39;ve never had before and I don&amp;#39;t know if I ever will again.&amp;#160; And I don&amp;#39;t have to learn how to do a new job.&amp;#160; And I honestly believe that I will get a raise and benefits, I just don&amp;#39;t know when.&amp;#160; And I don&amp;#39;t know if I would make as much even with the raise I would get by going full-time as I would with this new job.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;You know, I shouldn&amp;#39;t even be worrying about this now.&amp;#160; I don&amp;#39;t even have a phone interview scheduled yet!&lt;br /&gt; &lt;/p&gt;    &lt;p style=&quot;clear:both;&quot;&gt; 
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            <title>Happy Easter!</title>
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            <pubDate>Wed, 27 Feb 2008 19:12:40 -0500</pubDate>         
            
            <description>    &lt;p&gt;I&amp;#39;m sending out an early Happy Easter because I suck.&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;This past weekend I went to Rockville, MD to go to a Beijo Spring Line Launch party.&amp;#160; I could not believe that the company planned this big launch, with a webcast and sponsored parties across the country, and then DIDN&amp;#39;T SHOW ONE NEW BAG.&amp;#160; They were all old designs, but now they come in a crocodile pattern!&amp;#160; I couldn&amp;#39;t believe it.&amp;#160; WTF???&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;But I got to meet a bunch of other reps, which was nice.&amp;#160; I met one woman who has been around since this company was in it&amp;#39;s infancy, about 5 years ago.&amp;#160; She said most reps here have only been around for 2 years or so, and I&amp;#39;m beginning to see why.&amp;#160; I&amp;#39;m getting really frustrated and am giving myself one more year to make things happen or else I&amp;#39;m getting out.&amp;#160; There are so many things I feel are hindering my ability to make sales, but I&amp;#39;m afraid to say anything online because they have people that scour the internet to make sure no one is selling the bags online and I don&amp;#39;t know if they would get mad at me if I don&amp;#39;t do anything but praise the company.&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Okay, I&amp;#39;ve had a few glasses of wine and I feel I&amp;#39;ve said too much already.&amp;#160; Don&amp;#39;t want the Beijo police after me.&amp;#160; Later, taters.&lt;br /&gt; &lt;/p&gt;    &lt;p style=&quot;clear:both;&quot;&gt; 
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            <title>I Suck At Updating</title>
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            <pubDate>Wed, 26 Dec 2007 17:21:21 -0500</pubDate>         
            
            <description>    &lt;p&gt;Yep, I was right about not posting for a while!&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Things got very busy with work from 8-5, and then doing all sorts of stuff in the evening with Beijo and getting ready for Christmas.&amp;#160; I drove up to NJ this past Friday after work so I had to have all my stuff ready by Thursday.&amp;#160; The whole Christmas weekend was a whirlwind - driving 3 hours each way to my aunt and uncle and grandmother in upstate NY on Sunday, going to a cousin&amp;#39;s house Monday afternoon, having a rushed Christmas morning and early dinner and leaving NJ at 2:30.&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Now my husband will be going to Nags Head tomorrow and I&amp;#39;ll be all alone until the new year.&amp;#160; I need to figure out what I&amp;#39;m going to do for New Year&amp;#39;s Eve.&amp;#160; I know what I&amp;#39;ll be doing the weekend before - getting new kitchen appliances!&amp;#160; Yay for me!&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Maybe this week since I&amp;#39;ll have time to myself I&amp;#39;ll be able to post a little and give more details about my December. &lt;br /&gt; &lt;/p&gt;    &lt;p style=&quot;clear:both;&quot;&gt; 
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            <pubDate>Sun, 18 Nov 2007 16:07:21 -0500</pubDate>         
            
            <description>    &lt;p&gt;I had my second party on Friday, which was actually part 2 of a party I had a few weeks ago at my hostess&amp;#39; office.&amp;#160; We put all the sales together after Friday&amp;#39;s party, and I had over $1400 in sales!&amp;#160; Yay!&amp;#160; I also scheduled another party in January, and a woman wants to get together with her coworkers tomorrow and will hopefully schedule a party in December.&amp;#160; I&amp;#39;ve got a party the first week of December as well.&amp;#160; I really hope these parties will give me more leads for more parties, and I will soon reach my goal of 1 party a week.&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I really hope to soon start making a profit, because it seems like every time I make a sale, I end up buying more inventory with the money I make.&amp;#160; The hardest part is figuring out what to order - what styles, what colors.&amp;#160; And it never fails - if a bag comes in 6 colors and I have it in 5 of them, someone wants that bag in the one color I don&amp;#39;t have and I have to order it.&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;And I hope more people in my city go to these parties - my friend who has had these parties lives an hour away, and all her friends live around there.&amp;#160; Fortunately, her sister in law lives where I live, and she is the one who wants to have a party in December - if I can get sales leads from her and be able to stay in town, I won&amp;#39;t have to spend so much $$$ on gas to get to the parties!&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Okay, I need to enter my sales into the Beijo extranet.&amp;#160; And then start working on a Thanksgiving menu.&amp;#160; Thanksgiving is coming so early this year!&lt;br /&gt; &lt;/p&gt;    &lt;p style=&quot;clear:both;&quot;&gt; 
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            <pubDate>Tue, 06 Nov 2007 18:45:08 -0500</pubDate>         
            
            <description>    &lt;p&gt;You know why I changed the look of my blog to Christmas already?&amp;#160; Because I&amp;#39;m a lazy ass and haven&amp;#39;t posted in over 2 months and missed out on the cool Halloween designs, so who knows when I&amp;#39;ll be back here!&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Update on my business.&amp;#160; I had my first party a few weeks ago.&amp;#160; I know, I&amp;#39;ve been at this since April, what the hell took so long?&amp;#160; Well, I made the beer and wine festival over Memorial Day weekend my &amp;quot;coming out party&amp;quot; so to speak, and didn&amp;#39;t realize that the business goes dead in the summer.&amp;#160; I got no sales leads from the festival, but I sold a few bags to individuals over the summer.&amp;#160; Then in September I ordered some new styles of bags, and a couple we are friends with were over the house when the bags came in.&amp;#160; The wife loved the bags, bought one, and then scheduled a party for her coworkers.&amp;#160; The first party wasn&amp;#39;t great, but it wasn&amp;#39;t bad either - I sold 7 bags, and 10 people showed up for the party - I&amp;#39;m happy with that.&amp;#160; My hostess then scheduled a second party at her house for close friends and family, and two women from the party are going together to host another party for their friends and family.&amp;#160; And then my mom decided to host a party, which blew me away because I asked her to host a party over the summer and she would have nothing to do with that.&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;I&amp;#39;m hoping to get out of the red with these parties, but I feel like any time I make any money I&amp;#39;m immediately spending it on more inventory.&amp;#160; It is a vicious cycle!&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;My office job has been crazy busy.&amp;#160; My work literally doubled in September, so I&amp;#39;ve been running around town every day, with two permanent offices and a third location I show up in at least twice a week.&amp;#160; I&amp;#39;m expecting a very nice Christmas bonus.&amp;#160; I&amp;#39;ve earned it!&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;Okay, I need to refill my wine glass, and then eat some dinner.&amp;#160; Have a great night, y&amp;#39;all!&lt;br /&gt; &lt;/p&gt;    &lt;p style=&quot;clear:both;&quot;&gt; 
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            <title>Get Over It, Nicole!</title>
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            <pubDate>Mon, 20 Aug 2007 13:15:08 -0400</pubDate>         
            
            <description>    &lt;p&gt;Well, so far I&amp;#39;ve lost 10 pounds.&amp;#160; Woot!&amp;#160; I hope I don&amp;#39;t get bored with the calorie and fat gram counting.&amp;#160; I don&amp;#39;t want to look HUGE anymore.&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;Anyway, I&amp;#39;ve decided to write about something that I&amp;#39;ve been obsessing over for the past few months.&amp;#160; My friend (which I&amp;#39;ll give the pseudoname Martha) blew me off this year, and since June I&amp;#39;ve been getting myself into a tizzy about it.&amp;#160; Martha announced her pregnancy to me in December, just before Christmas.&amp;#160; Between January and June, I emailed her a number of times, telling her about my life and asking how she was and how the pregnancy was.&amp;#160; If I got a reply, it was something quick, telling me that everything is great and that she&amp;#39;ll try to give me a call.&amp;#160; A few times I tried calling her and just got her voicemail, and she never calls me back if I leave a message so I didn&amp;#39;t leave any.&amp;#160; At the end of May I mailed her a package of baby stuff and stuff for her and her husband, and I emailed her work address (because she never gave me her personal address!) to let her know.&amp;#160; I got an automated reply saying that she was on maternity leave until October.&amp;#160; A week or two later I was part of a mass email from Martha&amp;#39;s husband letting me know that their baby was born.&amp;#160; A few days after that my mother (who is best friends with Martha&amp;#39;s mother) told me that Martha was having problems with the pregnancy and had to be induced early.&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;A week after the baby was born I got a call from Martha.&amp;#160; She said that she had been too weak to call people until that day, and I was the first person she called.&amp;#160; She thanked me for the gifts, and when I tried to ask her why she didn&amp;#39;t tell me about the complication with her pregnancy she got short with me and immediately changed the topic.&amp;#160; The only thing she wanted to talk about was the baby, and I wanted to talk to her about her health and the state of our friendship.&amp;#160; It was a really awkward conversation, because it was clear that she only called so that I could fawn over her baby with her, and I was so hurt over her lack of communication that I didn&amp;#39;t care to fawn over anyone in her family at the moment.&amp;#160; After a few minutes she said she had a number of calls to make and as soon as she was feeling better she would call me and have a long talk with me.&amp;#160; After we hung up I knew I wasn&amp;#39;t going to hear from her until my birthday, in August.&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;And I was right!&amp;#160; Didn&amp;#39;t hear a thing from Martha the rest of June or all of July.&amp;#160; I asked my friends what I should do about her birthday (hers is 2 days before mine) and all of my friends said, &amp;quot;Fuck Martha.&amp;#160; She obviously doesn&amp;#39;t care about you anymore.&amp;quot;&amp;#160; but when I asked my husband, he suggested I take the high road and send her a card.&amp;#160; So I did.&amp;#160; I sent her a pretty generic birthday card, nothing personal about it at all.&amp;#160; I decided that was going to be my &amp;quot;going away&amp;quot; card to her - this was going to be the last time I send her anything unless I hear from her and get to talk things out with her.&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;So her birthday came and went, and while I usually call her I decided not to this year, and I had the great excuse of having to go to a wedding that day so it wasn&amp;#39;t like I was sitting around &lt;em&gt;not &lt;/em&gt;calling her.&amp;#160; Two days later it was my birthday, and I had a nice day full of cake, ice cream, and people singing to me, and at the end of the night I took a shower, and while I was in the shower Martha called me on my cell phone.&amp;#160; I didn&amp;#39;t get the message until the next morning, and it was Martha telling me that she and her husband and her parents who were at her house all wished me a happy birthday.&amp;#160; Nothing about not getting in touch with me, nothing about hoping to talk to me soon, no birthday song (we used to always sing the birthday song to each other).&amp;#160; And no card in the mail.&amp;#160; Now,&amp;#160;I know she has been spending most of the summer at her beach house with her mother, and her mother managed to send me a package w/a card and have it delivered on my birthday.&amp;#160; But I never got a card from Martha.&amp;#160; And for some reason, this has really pissed me off.&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;Why should I be surprised that I got a icy-cold message on a late-night voicemail (yes, I consider 10pm on a work night late) and nothing else?&amp;#160; She has treated me this way all year, is&amp;#160;she supposed to change all of a sudden?&amp;#160; Why am I still obsessing over this?&amp;#160; Why do I still care, and why am I still pissed about not getting a card a week after my birthday?&amp;#160; I think I may be pissed about the card because I was going to be all bad-ass and not send her a card, but then I broke down and sent her one anyway, and then she was the one who blew me off.&amp;#160; AGAIN.&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;I&amp;#39;m becoming a glutton for punishment, and I&amp;#39;m mad at myself for letting myself become that way.&amp;#160; I need a spine!&lt;/p&gt;    &lt;p style=&quot;clear:both;&quot;&gt; 
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            <pubDate>Fri, 10 Aug 2007 08:27:12 -0400</pubDate>         
            
            <description>    &lt;p&gt;I&amp;#39;m not feeling so disgustingly fat lately.&amp;#160; I don&amp;#39;t know if it is all in my head, or if I&amp;#39;m actually losing weight.&amp;#160; I&amp;#39;m going to weigh myself on Monday and then check in on the Alli website.&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;I have a wedding in NJ to go to this weekend.&amp;#160; I know I will be eating a lot, but I will definitely be watching what I&amp;#39;m eating.&amp;#160; Mom got me a birthday cake and I know I have to have a piece of that tonight, and I&amp;#39;m more bothered by the fact that I&amp;#39;ll be eating after 9pm than the fact that I&amp;#39;ll be eating cake.&amp;#160; I have this strong aversion to eating after 8pm, unless I know I&amp;#39;ll be up until the wee hours of the morning.&amp;#160; It is like I can eat from the moment I wake up until 8pm, and after that I refuse to eat.&lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;I haven&amp;#39;t been taking the pills for every meal - there are times when I know I&amp;#39;m eating more than 15g of fat, and then there are times when I don&amp;#39;t want to deal with the possibility of side effects the next day.&amp;#160; Like, I had a nail appointment yesterday after work, so I didn&amp;#39;t take a pill Wednesday at lunch because I didn&amp;#39;t want to have to maybe deal with the poops the next day while at the nail salon.&amp;#160; I won&amp;#39;t take one today at lunch because I don&amp;#39;t want to have to maybe deal with an oily ass tomorrow at the 11:30 am wedding.&amp;#160; &lt;/p&gt;
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&lt;p&gt;Can this blog get any more boring?&lt;/p&gt;    &lt;p style=&quot;clear:both;&quot;&gt; 
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